Problems with the Spouse

The number one cause for divorce (depending upon your source) is communication.  Some will tell you money.  I think it is a tie.  Fights, arguments, long sleepless nights, days of silence, and dirty looks, these are all the result of not talking things through.   The Bible states, “do not let the sun do down on your anger.”  These means for married couples, talk before you go to bed.  Come to a conclusion.
 
To come to an conclusion, there must be some rules.  Maybe there is a room only for heated debates.  Within 30 minutes there must be a conclusion.  No raising one’s voice.  No throwing objects (that is a good one).  What ever the rules, this one must be: always speak the truth with love.  Love your spouse. 
 
The word love is a term that we have cheapened dramatically.  It is a term of endearment.  It is a term which tells the other, you would die for them.  Yes you read it correctly, you would die for them.  God is love.  God died for you.  That is love.
 
When going into a heated conversation, ask yourself: Will I die for them?  If so, how?  Think about it.